Day 20: A Time I Advocated for Myself (and How It Felt)

May Mental Health Month Series

“I’ve never had trouble speaking up. But after my stroke, I had to learn how to advocate for myself in ways that weren’t loud but were just as brave.”

—Michelle Joy Brown

I’ve always been bold. Outspoken. Honest. Telling the truth comes naturally to me, especially when it involves protecting others or standing up for what’s right. But after my stroke, self-advocacy took on a new meaning. It wasn’t just about being heard. It became about protecting my energy, honoring my needs, and choosing what supports my well-being.

The boldness didn’t go away. It just shifted into a deeper, quieter kind of strength. The kind that says, “No, I can’t do that right now.” The kind that cancels instead of pushing through. The kind that makes peace with rest and lets go of guilt.

One moment I remember clearly was telling someone I trusted that I needed to pause a commitment. I didn’t sugarcoat it. I didn’t over explain. I simply told the truth. I was exhausted and needed time to recover. Saying it out loud felt vulnerable, but also empowering. It reminded me that advocating for myself isn’t about proving anything. It’s about trusting myself enough to say, “This matters. I matter.”

Since then, I’ve continued to speak up for what I need, whether that’s more rest, more time, more clarity, or more space. I do it not to be difficult but to stay aligned with what my health and healing require. And every time I do, I feel a little more grounded in who I am now.

Gentle Assignment:

Think of a time when you advocated for yourself. It might have been a big, bold moment or something quiet and personal. How did it feel? What did you learn from it? If self-advocacy is something you're still working on, try practicing today. Say no when you need to. Ask for help. Take the break. Your needs are not a burden. They are worthy of care.

In loving care,

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